Humorist David Sedaris has some thoughts on what’s in a name:
I never liked the word “coming out”. Nevertheless, I did. This was back in the 1970s. Now I have to do it all over again.
I am 65 years old. I’ve been with the same guy for 31 years, and on this day I’m announcing to the world that I’m Straight,
I haven’t met anyone else, I haven’t fallen in love with any woman. I just ended up fighting the word “queer”.
What bothers me is not that it used to be an abuse. I don’t understand why I had to do a rebranding for the fourth time in my life.
I started out as gay, became gay, then LGBT and now gay. and for what? Why makeover? And what will happen next? I read an interview with a woman who, being tall, identifies as queer. That’s all – he’s never had a relationship with another woman, I don’t care about all that I know. So, what does it mean that we Both Suddenly Queer? I’m not tall. just the opposite. There are parking meters that stand taller than me.
Like the word “Latinx”, “queer” was introduced by some humanities professor, and slowly gathered steam. Then, the good radio producers and magazine editors thought, Well, I guess that’s what they want to be called now! But I don’t remember any votes being taken.
I’m told that queer is all about inclusion. It is an umbrella under which gay and non-binary people and bisexual and tall women can stand. But why not just say, “I’m intersex,” “I’m trans,” “I’m a lesbian,” etc. Why do we need an ever-changing umbrella? Is it just to make the parade easier?
It no longer matters what you are in practice, just how you identify. I’m going with heterosexual, because like Jewish or female words, it rarely changes. I need a place to rest, and that’s as good as any.
So, from here on out, I’m as straight as they come! But, with a boyfriend.
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